Hi guys, I hope you’re having a great weekend so far. I’m feeling pretty motivated and inspired right now, so I’m hoping that feeling is here to stay!
A lot of you already know of my boyfriend Gary (he’s usually that weirdo in my Snapchats with me!) and some of you may already know that he’s originally from Plymouth. When we first met he still lived down south, and with myself here in Liverpool it was impossible to date ‘normally’, and so we had to get creative. We did long distance for the first 18 months of our relationship, which is pretty impressive I think. Especially because we did it as a new couple, not an already deeply committed relationship that then deals with long distance. So yeah I’m pretty proud of us to be honest, and I think we did brilliantly considering the challenges.
So I thought today I’d share with you my top tips for doing long distance successfully. Now obviously I can only speak from my own experiences, but I hope this might help one or two of you if you are currently going through this. It doesn’t have to be the worst thing ever! 🙂
1. Be romantic.
There is so much you’re going to be missing out on while you’re away from your partner, that it’s easy to concentrate on what you’re missing. However this is an opportunity to really make them feel special, and to still inject some romance and passion into your relationship even when apart. Try sending them flowers, writing them a love letter or making something special just for them.
2. Plan ahead.
Planning ahead can make things so much easier for the both of you. It’ll give you something to look forward to, it’ll save on travel costs, and having set plans will ensure you don’t feel neglected (which is easily done if you are in a LDR).
3. Make an effort every day.
Usually in a serious relationship you see that person daily, or speak to them/have some sort of contact (I’m only going off my own experience here, I understand this may differ for you!), so try to make sure even though you’re separated by distance; you still have that daily contact. Whether it be a phone call each night to say what you’ve done, texts throughout the day, or skyping each other at set times; it’s nice to get into a routine you’re both comfortable with that makes you feel wanted and missed. Gary and I used to call each other every night, and chat about our days, then watch a tv show/film at the exact same time when on the phone. I know, it sounds lame. But this was actually so much fun, and it meant we felt closer and didn’t miss out on the ‘normal’ things other couples had.
4. Give them space.
Before you think this tip is clashing with the previous, hear me out. While I definitely encourage regular contact in a LDR, it’s also important to know that you’re partner might also need their own space still. Yes, technically they have all the space they could need if they are miles and miles away; but people need head space too. As much as it hurt having Gary so far away, it gave me a chance to spend a lot of time with my friends, do my own thing and be a really independent person. I really appreciated how that distance helped me grow as a person.
5. Use this time.
Since you only have the art of conversation between those times you actually get to see each other; it’s a great chance to really get to know the other person. Think of a list of crazy/random questions to ask about them each time you talk, and you’ll be learning new things about them all the time. This is nice, and it’ll make you guys feel closer too.
One day I might publish a huge list of specific tips for things you can do to keep the spark going in a long distance relationship, but for now I hope you guys enjoyed this post. I’m certainly no expert, but I do love sharing what’s worked for me. A huge thanks to Romance Women Dating for collaborating with me today so I could create this post.
I’d love to know if you guys have any tips, or if you’ve ever dealt with distance in a relationship before?
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