Something happened this week, something quite strange. I was sitting at my desk, pouring over my to-do list as usual, when I realised most of my work was done for the day already. It was only about 2pm, so this was a fantastic early finish for me! I had nothing else I had to do, and Gary wasn’t going to be home until about 10pm. Absolute freedom to do whatever I liked…. but I felt lost. Without a to-do list, I felt a bit hopeless.
Now, don’t get me wrong I had plans with friends the very next day (and the day after) and I’d seen a friend the day before; so it’s not as if I’m some total pathetic loser all alone with only her to-do list for company. But… it seems I’ve gotten myself SO organised, so productive, so strict with my schedule.. that I no longer know how to have fun.
Guys, I was sat there wondering what the hell to do with myself. I wasted so much time, fannying about. And my time ‘off’ was miserable. I found myself feeling down, and it’s so stupid. I can’t explain it any other way other than, I had nothing to do, and nothing appealed to me. I didn’t want to watch TV or a film, I didn’t want to go out for a walk, I weren’t in a very creative mood, and everything just sorta felt… ‘MEHH’.
I began to realise I have been living within my very confined comfort zone for the longest time now, and I’m not sure why I boxed myself in so much.
I used to be so spontaneous, more daring, less worried.
I have NO idea what changed, and it’s felt like it was a slow, gradual process that’s been invisible even to myself. Maybe I got stuck in ‘adult mode‘ focusing solely on responsibilities and worries. I guess that’s to be expected, since in the last year I’ve; moved out of a tiny rented flat in Liverpool to our ‘forever home’ in Plymouth 300 miles away, started thinking about wedding planning, and trying for a baby. When I put that in writing, you can see how I may have gotten swept up in BIG plans. So maybe I can forgive myself.
So what now? I feel like I’ve been underwater, and now my head’s clearing and I can breathe again. So what the hell do I want to do? Never mind for my day off; what do I want from LIFE? Scary question.
I think mostly, I want to step out of my comfort zone. That’s where the problem has started, right? So that’s probably what I should try to tackle.
I’m scared guys, truth be told. I like my comfort zone. It’s warm and safe and easy. But fear is better than utter boredom and regret isn’t it?
So with that in mind, I’ve put together a list of ways I could force myself out of my comfort zone. I hope you’ll find this helpful too, and join along with me (I need encouragement!!). Whether you try something small or life changing; I’d love to hear about it! Little changes make a BIG difference, remember!
10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone
1. Create something different
About 90% of you guys reading this are fellow creators; which means you’ll have your own blog, Youtube channel, or a bangin’ Insta that you’ve turned into a biz. So I suggest we try switch things up as creators. Usually stick to beauty reviews? Create a fashion post, or write about your life! Are you usually hidden behind an Instagram of flatlays? Get your face on the gram, do an Insta live, and get chatting! Don’t worry, I’ve already got my own plans to switch things up. Eek!
2. Explore fashion
This is something I’m slowly trying to do myself. Slowly, because I have such a small amount of money left after my monthly bills. I wish I could go out and buy a whole new wardrobe, but it’s fine. I’ve put together a Pinterest board of styles I would usually be too afraid to try, and I’m determined to explore them! More colour, more FUN, more clashing is on my agenda. Also.. letting someone take photographs of me. GULP. I’ll try, I promise.
3. Make new friends
This is something I’m having to do anyway since I’ve moved to Plymouth, and I’ve made some amazing pals here. This is a huge thing, especially in your twenties, as it can be so hard. It doesn’t matter how sassy and confident you are, most of us go to jelly when in a room of strangers. But it’s SO DAMN rewarding. So go to as many local events as you can, join a class/club, volunteer somewhere, get chatting to local bloggers on Twitter/Insta, and really put yourself out there. After all, you’re a bit fab aren’t you??
4. Challenge yourself
This one’s a bit ambiguous isn’t it? So take it however you will, but make it CHALLENGING. It could be taking on extra responsibilities at work, working up the nerve to ask someone on a date, or trying to conquer a fear of yours. Start taking note of what holds you back from what you REALLY want, and push yourself, even slightly! For reference, I asked two of my best friends if they could tell me something they’d love to do to push themselves out of their comfort zones. One said she’d love to sing in front of people in a serious capacity (we’re not counting drunken karaoke here guys), and the other said simply to feel confident wearing a bikini. How crazy is that? We all hold ourselves back in big ways over the TINIEST of things. When we’re old and grey, we won’t care about such worries, and we will wish we had been braver. Let’s try, together.
5. Change up your look
Happy on the outside, happy on the inside – or something. Sometimes a haircut can make you feel SO MUCH better, or trying a new style. Try new makeup looks, try something you’d never usually, experiment a little. Usually glam and girly? Go for rock chic casual. Never stray from nude lippie? Reach for a bold red, orange, or purple! This is one thing I know makes me feel good. I can get so bored if I don’t switch things up often – which is why you’ll notice I change my hair colour drastically every few months.
6. Learn a new skill
This one sounds like work, and can instantly put you off. But this doesn’t have to be the case! I’m not suggesting you learn a whole new language (unless you want that, then go for it dude); but I do think learning something new, however small, can feel amazing. Master Photoshop, start crocheting, read up how a little HTML knowledge can help your blog, take an Art class, or get to know your DSLR. I have a few ideas for myself.. I’m still yet to pick one though.
7. Look to your heroes for the next step
Inspiration can do wonders for getting you out of your comfort zone, because you can see the results of someone who has really pushed themselves and tried something new or hard. Why do you admire them? How can you use this inspiration to make changes in your own life? Push yourself, or you’ll forever be admiring others through a screen.
8. Do everything differently for one day
This sounds a bit weird doesn’t it? But I got thinking about the way I tend to stick to a script, I live and die by my damn to-do list, and I want to get out of this bad habit. So if you have the chance, try to spend a day doing the opposite of what you’d typically do! It could be like an instant reboot for your brain, and you’ll feel motivated, inspired, and more keen to try new things. So for me; even if I have work to do, I could take my laptop into town, head to Starbucks, and get it done there. I could get myself away from my desk, plan on meeting a friend for lunch, go sightseeing, and get photographs as the sun sets before heading home. I could SOAK up every bit of life around me.
9. Move your work space
Like I said, I could go write in Starbucks. If you work from home, or even if you just simply write in your bed at night on your laptop; get out! Go to a park, a coffee shop, or even just your garden. You get the point. But basically, even a small change of scenery will make a big difference, and you’ll feel less stuck in a rut.
10. Don’t let failure or insecurity hold you back
Yep, I’ve saved the biggie for last. It’s not easy at all, and it’s something we’re all probably guilty of at some point in our lives (or all the time..). But guys… FUCK IT. Life is so damn short. When I look back, I always regret the things I weren’t brave enough to do, and I don’t ever regret anything that I have done or tried. Because I’ve been brave and it’s worked out, or I’ve learned from it, and I wouldn’t give that experience up for anything. I desperately want to shake out my fears and let go of everything that hold me back, and I hope you guys do too.
“Your life isn’t yours if you constantly care what others think.”
Good luck gang x
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